#2 On The List Of "12 Things Successful Women Do Differently"

Debora Spar

President, Barnard College

Author, "Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection"

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2. They don't expect perfection -- of themselves or those around them.
Research has shown that wasting time and energy trying to be "perfect" only leads to unhappiness. Successful women know that that they can't do everything well all the time. Beating yourself up for your perceived flaws will only dampen your abilities at work, not to mention your mental health. "We each, if we're lucky, will have our chance to leave a mark on the world, but we are trying too hard to be perfect," wrote Barnard president Debora Spar in an op-ed for Glamour magazine. "So don't emulate Wonder Woman; think about what's wonderful to you instead. Then boldly, audaciously, joyfully, leave the rest behind."

1. Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection: Debora L ...

   www.amazon.com › ... › Social Sciences › Gender Studies‎

   Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection [Debora L. Spar] on Amazon.com. *FREE* ... Debora L. Spar never thought of herself as a feminist.

2. A Welcome to College Parents | Debora Spar - Huffington Post

   www.huffingtonpost.com/debora-spar/college-move-in-day_b_3814721...‎

   Aug 26, 2013 - Over the next few weeks, parents across the U.S. will be taking their sons and daughters to college, a momentous event and a turning point that ...

3. Finding Satisfaction in Second Best - NYTimes.com

   www.nytimes.com/2013/09/15/.../finding-satisfaction-in-second-best.html?...

   3 days ago - Debora Spar is the president of Barnard College and the mother of three children, and yet in her spare time she wrote a book — about how ...

4. Why Women Should Stop Trying to Be Perfect - Newsweek and The ...

   www.thedailybeast.com/.../why-women-should-stop-trying-to-be-perfect...‎

   Sep 24, 2012 - Debora Spar on why women should learn to say no. Yet, despite these successes, which Rosin cites as evidence of women's ascent, the harsh ...

5. debora spar (deboraspar) on Twitter

   https://twitter.com/deboraspar‎

   The latest from debora spar (@deboraspar). Debora Spar is President of Barnard College and author of the forthcoming Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the ...

6. Why Women Can't Have It All, According to Barnard College ...

   www.glamour.com/.../why-women-cant-have-it-all-according-to-barnard-c...

   You know that girl who "has it all"--perfect job, relationship, body? No, you don't, because she doesn't exist, argues Barnard College president Debora L. Spar in ...