"Worrier or Warrior: Why Some Kids Can Handle Pressure While Others Fall Apart?"

"Worrier or Warrior: Why Some Kids Can Handle Pressure While Others Fall Apart?" is the question on which Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, the authors of Nurture Shock and Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing, introduce fresh perspective in this NYTimes Magazine article: "Understanding their propensity to become stressed and how to deal with it can help children compete. Stress turns out to be far more complicated than we’ve assumed, and far more under our control than we imagine. Unlike long-term stress, short-term stress can actually help people perform, and viewing it that way changes its effect. Even for those genetically predisposed to anxiety, the antidote isn’t necessarily less competition — it’s more competition. It just needs to be the right kind." Click here to read more: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/10/magazine/why-can-some-kids-handle-pressure-while-others-fall-apart.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=1&

http://www.amazon.com/Top-Dog-Science-Winning-ebook/dp/B0092XHOGE/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1361561209&sr=8-2&keywords=top+dog+the+science+of+winning+and+losing

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Alan:  As commonly understood, "success" is grossly over-rated.

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Beyond an income of $50,000.00 to $75,000.00, happiness does not increase and may even decrease.
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2013/12/its-about-flow-dozen-basic-guidelines.html
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2013/11/princeton-study-finds-75000-enough-to.html
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/05/50000-may-be-new-happiness-tipping.html

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"The moral flabbiness born of the exclusive worship of the bitch-goddess Success. That - with the squalid cash interpretation put on the word "success" - is our national disease."  William James

Thomas Merton was once asked to write a chapter for a book entitled "Secrets of Success."  He replied: "If it so happened that I had once written a best-seller, this was a pure accident, due to inattention and naivete, and I would take very good care never to do the same again.  If I had a message for my contemporaries, I said, it was surely this:  Be anything you like, be madmen, drunks, and bastards of every shape and form, but at all costs avoid one thing:  success." 

"The secret to success is sincerity. If you can fake that, you can do anything."

Television executive counseling newcomer Daniel Schorr, 1953

"Those nations only are blessed whose God is the Lord.  And, inasmuch as we know that, by His divine law, nations like individuals are subjected to punishments and chastisements in this world, may we not justly fear that the awful calamity of civil war, which now desolates the land, may be but a punishment inflicted upon us, for our presumptuous sins, to the needful end of our national reformation as a whole People.  We have been the recipients of the choicest bounties of heaven.  We have been preserved, these many years, in peace and prosperity.  We have grown in numbers, wealth and power, as no nation has ever grown.  But we have forgotten the gracious hand which preserved us in peace, and multiplied and enriched and strengthened us; and we have vainly imagined in the deceitfulness of our hearts, that all these blessings were produced by some superior wisdom and virtue of our own.  Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming an preserving grace, too proud to pray to the God that made us!  It behooves us then, to humble ourselves before the offended Power, to confess our national sins, and to pray for clemency and forgiveness.... I do by this proclamation designate and set apart the 30th day of April, 1863 as a day of national humiliation, fasting and prayer." Abraham Lincoln

Without mindfulness, the tyranny of the "Disjointed Moment" binds us to the daemons of fashion, fatuity and dispirited physicality. Burdened by the claustrophobic crush of materialist immediacy, we accumulate tokens of "success," slowly coming to believe (whether consciously or not) that "s/he who dies with the most toys wins."

Alan Archibald

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